Compulsive Destiny

The concept of coercion comes from Lipót Szondi (1893-1986).
In his analysis of destiny and self-confession he writes:
“My family comes from Slovakia, which at that time belonged to Hungary and thus to the Austro-Hungarian Monarchy. I was born on March 11, 1893, in Nitra, as the twelfth child of my father and the eighth child of my mother (my father’s second wife). My father (1837-1911) was a Jew, a shoemaker by profession, but he devoted his life mainly to the study of Jewish writings. When I was five years old (1898), the family moved to Budapest, where the adult boys and daughters supported the family while my father read his Hebrew books from five o’clock in the morning. My father raised me to be a religious man. Still, other factors had to play a role, as I was the only one of the seven boys who always accompanied him to church until his death. When he died, I was eighteen years old. . . ”

Szondi believes that destiny is determined primarily by this pattern-following compulsion arising from within, and through this by “blood kinship,” that is, ancestors or ancestors. The pattern of destiny followed strikes in all areas of individual life: love, friendship, work, illness, even death.
Yet we are not completely exposed to our coercive destiny, for coercion is supplemented by a piece of freedom, provided that one has the necessary spiritual strength and a firm will to exercise that freedom. One is able to recognize compulsion in one’s destiny, and in this case one can choose one’s own destiny from one’s family set of destiny possibilities. This part of destiny chosen by the “I” and integrated into the personality is called Szondi’s chosen destiny. Ultimately, personal destiny can emerge from the dialectical play of these two — compulsive destiny and chosen destiny.
However, only a strong personality can shape his destiny. “The larger the piece of freedom, that is, the stronger the elective Self, the easier it is to endure destiny. But is fate a mere repetition of a life that has once passed in the past? Compulsive destiny without free choice of the Self is not really fate, but only life without Self, and therefore: vegetation without fate. , with a personal fate. “
According to Szondi, the decisive factor in building destiny and changing compulsive destiny is the belief function of the Self, as it functions as a bridge between freedom and coercion, choices and inherited or unconsciously followed patterns.
Source: Ákos Szilágyi: nol.hu

According to Szondi, therefore, the choice of destiny is an indispensable condition for making forced destiny conscious, because “he who does not choose himself has no personal destiny.” Awareness of hitherto unknown, unconscious mechanisms carries a new quality of life.
Both Szondi and Hellinger contrast freedom, the chosen destiny, with the bondage of coercive destiny.