1.3.2 Withholding emotions and beliefs

Releasing limiting emotions and beliefs  which hinder your goal

Now that you have your SMART goal, it’s time to clear away the inner roadblocks that could slow or stop your progress.
These roadblocks often take the form of limiting emotions and self-defeating beliefs that have been with us for years — sometimes since childhood.

With your SMART goal in mind, answer the following questions honestly in your notebook. Don’t overthink — let the answers flow.

1. List the 3 most important issues/problems/conditions you want to heal by the end of this program:

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 2. How do these issues limit your personal and professional life?

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3. Who contributes to maintaining these issues?

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4. What emotions do you experience when your priority issue arises? (anger, shame, guilt, anxiety, etc.)

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 5. What typical thoughts/negative beliefs accompany them? (I’m not good enough; Who am I to …; What will others say if …. etc.)

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6. How do you behave as a result of the above emotions and beliefs?

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7. Based on your chosen priorities, set up your problem sentences, for example: 

1. My priority problem is that I feel sick before giving a presentation.
2. It limits my professional life as I am overly silent at my workplace.
3. My boss and my mother contributes to this problem as both often humiliate me when I speak freely.
4. I feel shame when I need to speak.
5. I believe nobody will talk to me again if I make a mistake while speaking in front of them.
6. I remain silent as in work so with my friends.

8. Release the emotional pain and transform your witholding belief

Find a comfortable place to sit. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, relax your body, empty your mind.

Go back in time when these emotions and beliefs first arouse. Find your past self. Look into their eyes.

• What emotions do you see in their eyes?
• What do they think about themselves and the world
• What negative belief was born?

Still looking into their eyes, find the words they long to hear and say to them. Next, ask them to replace the negative belief with a sharp, short, positive one. Then, embrace them as if a beloved little child. Hold them tight until they calm down. When their smile shines, When their smile finally shines, hand them a bright paint pistol. Invite them to spray vivid colours over the painful scene — the people, the place, the event — until the memory feels lighter.

When they’re ready, gently surround them in light, shrink them to the size of your palm, and place them in your heart.

Come back to present time.

9. Focus on your SMART goal, and write your answers to the following questions in your notebook:

How will your life be different when your goal is accomplished?

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What will you do then specifically?

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What will you tell your best friend about your life then? (Brag a little, please!)

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